
Hey my sexy readers,
As the year is coming to an end, I am getting more and more into an inventory mode - trying to look back on what was and based on that trying to plan how to make the new year even better.
Hands down the best thing that happened to me this year was that I started to write on Medium and it surpassed all of my expectations. Well, to be honest, I didn’t know what to expect - because I was pushing writing away for such a long time that when I started I was just glad that the words let me use them.
I am making the best of my free time and I write as much as I can - and I will do everything to keep up the pace.
I started to write on this account at the beginning of October - which feels like a lifetime away and I am amazed how far I have come in just less than three months.
In case you missed it, this was my first article, with Human Parts - a rather sad confession about my abusive relationship. I am honoured that I could publish with them, it’s a big thing for me. So, in case you wondered… I am not writing exclusively about sex, there is a lot more to me. :)

Ever since, I gathered almost 1,000 followers (942 to be very precise, I would have loved to make it 1,000 but I won’t make it this year) on my Medium profile.
I started this email list a month later and in 1.5 months I have 150 subscribers. In those 6 weeks I sent out 10 emails to you, and if you’re still with me, I am guessing it’s going okay. I am ever so grateful for you following me. (Any suggestion on how to make it better is welcome. Probably I should write shorter emails. LOL)
Within this time I wrote 77 articles that brought me 45,000 views and my articles were read 22,000 times. Quite amazing, right?
I am proud of what I have achieved and I would like to thank you for helping me getting here.
As an inventory, I looked back on this year and I made a few resolutions - because it’s that time of the year and you just can’t NOT do it.
I am trying to adopt a positive mindset and focusing on what I have not on what I lack. This is what the title of this article is about. Get Something Good and Make It Awesome. As this year was already very good, if I can learn from it, then 2020 will be amazing!

My end-of-the-year good mood is not by chance. I still need external validation - big time. But I am working on it. I had a very sexy BDSM encounter with a guy I haven’t seen in ages, and I have to say that The Night I Finally Let Go of Wanting to Be in Control was quite something to write about. I’m hoping to meet him again still this year - probably tonight is the night.
It’s kind of an interesting dynamics that we have, as it turned out (and you will see what I mean if you read the article above) that I am not only leaning towards submission, I am fully and totally submissive - and enjoying it more than I would have ever thought. I am trying to Let Go of Body Image Issues One Spank at a Time. It’s an interesting experiment and I am curious where it might lead me. There is a better chance of finding what you want if you know where to look for it, right?
As you can see from quite a few of my writings, I am trying to process my own life-events, overcoming my own inhibitions and opening up about my fears and secrets - in the hope that it helps others as well.
I am trying to start 2020 with a clean slate - throwing out the old baggage to make room for new experiences.
As I was trying to encourage you to comment, reply, ask questions or suggest topics - thanks to all of you who did - I am really trying to have a conversation here, not just a unilateral talk at you.
I was quite happy to get to writing an article about Why Women Are Terrible in Bed suggested by a commenter. I believe that when it comes to sexuality we have really a lot to discuss. So I am always embracing the conversation starter, the thought-provoking questions - and thank you for your encouragements and positive feedback. This is what really makes it worth it.
So, as always: thank you for being here. Thank you for all your support. Thank you for the questions and comments. You are the best!
Hope you’ll have a lovely evening or night!
Kisses,
Octavia
Ps: I hope you already follow me on Medium, but it’s never too late if you don’t: